The power of community and how we thrive

Having a like-minded Community is the only way you can be happy and thrive.

You must have heard this productivity mantra-

Disappear for 6 months

Do uncomfortable things

Focus only on your goal nothing else

I believe it is total bullshit.

I tried for a month or so but felt more lost than ever

I really wanted to change my life and felt this is the only way

It may work for some

But trust me on this, you gotta make a lot of sacrifices which I wasn't ready to make but still did.

I used to think living like a robot can really give you efficient outcomes and make you super productive.

Yeah sure it can but just for a short while

For a longer and more fulfilling life, it can be a shortcut

But the expense of what?

MENTAL PEACE

Loneliness is a silent killer

Don't get me wrong here

We humans are social animals and community is where we thrive.

As hunters gather humans best thrived in communities of 100-150 people

It was the most efficient number to make a pack work

So, as I was getting detached from my peer groups I realized every weekend when I was free I used to crave that sense of belonging in the community

Which was missing

When we are in college the college is our community and we live or survive there literally for a lot of time.

The first thing that happens is we find our community.

We connect with people who are from the same roots or places.

Or people who share the same point of view as us

That is why college is said to be the best and worst time of most people's life

Like for me it was the best time as I found my community in my friends

And I know a lot of people who hated college because they didn't find theirs

When people graduate and go on to find jobs, study, and go abroad they really struggle a lot initially as their sense of community is lost.

It has to be built again from scratch.

Work has to be done

They have to get up and move making connections and making the place familiar to them and their psyche.

Unlike college, it's hard for some to make connections in this fast-paced world

Nobody's got the time or the energy for someone new

Mostly it's for their own sake, and people do use each other

It mostly works if there is an exchange through barter

So, I remember coming back from work I used to call my people up and even though talking about the same random old shit it really felt good.

It powered me enough to go through the week at least

But when I realized

It was almost around 3years since I came back to my hometown after getting wasted in all the places

I had to find my kind people as my sense of community was lost.

I was living in the past for a long time

Looking back on the same old pictures

Feeling happy about the same old memories.

For my life to thrive I realized I had to make or join my community

And if you are with me still, you are my community

So, I would say whenever you move to a new city or a place

Find your community

In a world of technology sometimes it is just a dm away